Rites of passage are thresholds we pass over during the course of our life. They can also be thought of as hinges, where life direction changes. Every hinge is unique, although there are common threads that run through. Some, are unique – only happening once, whereas others can happen multiple times.
These moments in life seem to call out for a slow, rich appreciation that feeds the depths of our souls. We want to slow down and take notice, to be seen and heard in our transitional state from one place in life to another. We call our nearest & dearest to gather, to witness us as we step over these major thresholds – birth, marriage, death are the most common, but there is also menarche, pregnancy, birth, postnatal & baby naming.
As your celebrant, my role is to hold a sacred space to honour your rite of passage, in a way that is important and meaningful to you. This is your your special day, let’s make it memorable!
My celebrant package involves:
- One free no-obligation phone call to discuss, see if we fit and if I’m available
- Arranging and planning the whole ceremony – which can include managing the guest list & RSVP’s if appropriate
- Email, phone and video communication as well as in person meetings
- Travel expenses (5 miles from my home in EX5 3JN, 45p/pm after that)
- The whole day of your ceremony (I never double book to try to squeeze more in, as these things deserve time to unfold).
- I am there to set up, create the space, welcome your guests (if you decide to have any), introduce & perform your ceremony in the way that you want, and if needed I will stay to help pack up as well
- Depending on the ceremony I often include candles, incense, flowers, greenery and an individually made floral head-garland. I also have various decorations including sari drapes, sheepskins, fairy lights, crockery and seating available
- A phone-call afterwards to debrief, if necessary
- Cost is on an individual basis and sliding scale. A basic ceremony package roughly costs £250.
First Blood: A menarche ceremony to honour the change from child to woman. Best performed with full consent of the girl concerned! This is a woman-only ceremony for close family and friends.
Joining Ceremony : A ceremony of commitment between two people, either with a small circle or wider community. While not legally binding, a joining ceremony has the freedom to be wherever and whatever you wish, incorporating the elements that are important to you. This could also be a renewal of vows.
Self-Marriage Ceremony: A ceremony to commit to self-love, honour and respect. This powerful ceremony has been known to be a precursor to marriage to another person, but the focus is on being whole and complete within yourself.
Mother Blessing Ceremony: This is usually held towards the end of pregnancy. It honours the transition into motherhood, offering the mother-to-be a wonderfully rich experience to support her through childbirth and early parenting. Also for women who are becoming mothers through adoption, surrogacy, or co-parenting. Most women choose this to be a woman-only circle of your closest female friends and family members. This ceremony is a beautiful joyful event that gives positive strength and love in the approach to labour & childbirth.
Postpartum Ceremony: An gentle, intimate ceremony to ritually reclaim a woman’s body after the opening experience of giving birth. It can be a one-to-one ceremony including massage, wrapping with rebozos and retelling of birth story / re-birthing. It can include the partner as a re-commitment moment post-childbirth. It can include closest female friends / family or just you. Many women find this ceremony very healing.
Naming / Welcoming Ceremony : A ceremony to ritually present a new child to the community, after childbirth or adoption. It can be a small intimate ceremony of family and friends, or open to extended family depending on your preference. This ceremony can also feel like a rite of passage for parents as well, announcing their new status to the world.
Rebirthing Ceremony: An experiential ceremony to welcome your child into the world in the way you might has visualised, but not been able to experience due to unforeseen circumstances. For some people this could be a water birth in their own home, after having to transfer to hospital. Often an intimate and deeply healing ritual for all involved.
Menopause Ceremony: A ceremony to call witness and honour the rite of passage of menopause. When the fertility cycles come to a end, so does a stage of life. This ceremony can be a truly empowering experience to honour the journey, let go of the past and create positive intentions for a positive future.
Grief Ceremony: A ceremony to give space to that which we have lost, or has been taken from us. A time to say goodbye and begin the gentle process of letting go.
Please get in touch to arrange your free no-obligation phone call.
I am often booked up months in advance, so it’s never too early, and no ceremony is too small.